WE’RE IN OUR 24TH DAY
We’re in our 24th day of Arizona’s “Stay at Home” order, and I’m surprisingly busy and content. Why is that?
I have a considerate, understanding husband who is thoughtful enough to leave me alone in my office for hours at a time. We go for long walks. We take turns cooking and watch a lot of good stuff on TV. We have sex. We go camping and fishing to break up the monotony of being at home day after day. I bake. I work in the garden. I organize my shoes.
But honestly, if I didn’t have my women friends, I think I would be in a terrible funk. Men may feel the same way about their male friends; I’m not sure. You see, we women reach out to each other. We send each other texts, emails, and notes. We call and check on each other. We ask each other for advice. We FaceTime and meet in the park for lunch. We share our recipes, books, TV shows, feelings. We organize happy hours on Zoom. We do these things because we are women, and women prioritize connection. They initiate.
And when I don’t initiate, one of my friends does. I have several who are especially good about that. I get busy and weeks may go by. They don’t give up on me or assume I don’t love them. They reach out. And I’m grateful. Because women can talk to each other about things the men in our lives just wouldn’t know or care about. Let’s face it: while I’m talking about my sick friend, Gene is thinking about the exhaust manifold in his truck… or the weeds that need spraying… or his testosterone level.
There are some big differences between the sexes. And I gave up long ago expecting to get everything I need from my man. I need to be loved by others, too, and I need to express my love for them by giving them my attention.
So I’m trying to become “the one” in Hafez’s beautiful 14th Century poem, “With that Moon Language.” Because I love my girlfriends. And they love me.
With that Moon Language
Admit something: Everyone you see, you say to them,
Of course you do not do this out loud;
Someone would call the cops.
Still though, think about this,
This great pull in us to connect.
Why not become the one
Who lives with a full moon in each eye
That is always saying
With that sweet moon
What every other eye in this world
Is dying to
5 thoughts on “Becoming the One”
Next year, Normandy and Paris! 🙏 My Granddaughter and her wife were going to Europe on a WWII tour. My cousin was going to Italy to celebrate her birthday. There is next year and hope for the future. I thank God for hope.
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Just figuring out how this works, Dollie. Embarrassing! But, yes, I, too, thank God for hope.
I had a problem with my website for a while, and I’m not sure I answered this. I, too, thank God for hope. It sees you through the tough times. xo
This is so true. My best friend and I have been friends since we met in 2nd grade in 1950. We have shared life. While we both love and loved our husbands, children and our families. We need each other. I can’t envision life without her;,yet I know that time is coming.
I’m so happy you have each other, Dollie. Girlfriends are a gift from God.